tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669232949254960562.post3094718129383443685..comments2023-04-17T07:56:57.717-04:00Comments on Naptime Confessional: Time Keeps on Tickin'Mary Bethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12212750107782259674noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669232949254960562.post-26864554006947887672010-01-20T08:33:20.032-05:002010-01-20T08:33:20.032-05:00Mary Beth-
I so relate to that shocked feeling of ...Mary Beth-<br />I so relate to that shocked feeling of the world not stopping because of my huge loss....it's bizarre, right? I would be in line at Lord & Taylor and think "I can't believe I have to wait. Don't they know my young mother just died?" or being incredulous that I had to wait at a red light. Didn't they see? Didn't they know?? I couldn't WAIT! If I waited, I might begin to think and then to cry...yes, "Who is this person?" is exactly how I felt. I KNOW that a mom and a daughter are not the same loss. I did not mean to suggest that. And grief has common threads that bind all of us that have gone through a significant loss in varying and horrible degrees. All of the cliches are true - time healing and all of that crap. But the important NOW suggestion I have is this...sob in the shower, scream in the car and drink at least half a glass of your favorite indulgent wine a night. Thinking of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669232949254960562.post-27062982791809830132010-01-19T15:55:39.802-05:002010-01-19T15:55:39.802-05:00Mary Beth, Chris told me everything today. I hadn&...Mary Beth, Chris told me everything today. I hadn't seen the email and had called to invite you all over on Saturday for dinner. I don't know what to say, because everything sounds so damn stupid. I am angry and sad and devastated for you. I suppose, that just as Eliot changed you from who and what you were before him, so will Calla, you just can't yet be sure how. You are probably hearing so many people saying, "I have a friend...", but I do. With the "same" story, a year and a half ago. When you are ready we can open the line of communication if you would like. I know she would be more than willing. I must say, I agree with your husband. There is no rushing this. There is only allowing yourself to emerge at some point and then looking back over time and saying, "Oh, I think I am beginning to understand". As a friend, I am willing to share the burden in anyway I can. If you want to drop Eliot for a time and go do something, anything, you can. I make a mean meatloaf. And, it's just me and the 2 1/2 year old over here-so come whenever. -HeatherHeather Linknoreply@blogger.com